Growing Our Heritage: In Search of a Full Quiver Month 5

So I've been MIA for a while.  We are now closing in on our adoption date and things are good.  We still have rough waters but the frequency of them is less and less.  A has now really assimilated into the family and it's like he was always here, and I cannot imagine life without him at this point.  He's a big goofy ball of snuggles, cuddles, leggos, minecraft, xbox and nerf wars.  I was, however, woefully unprepared for the tornado that is boyhood--the ruined clothes alone are shocking!  But so much of what we encounter these days are simply boy issues and not trauma/foster care issues.
I will say that Jason and I are still shocked by the injustices of this child's prior life experiences.  For the sake of his privacy I won't do into detail but there are so many life skills that he just doesn't have because no one took the time to teach him, or later on ask him if he knew how to do them.  We keep stumbling into things and saying, "That never crossed my mind that he may not know how to  *blank*".  But he is receptive to learning and good spirited about it. 
He has gotten to the point that discipline is so much easier and less like a world war.  He takes it in stride and can rebound from anger/being upset fairly quickly.  He is a resilient loving child and we are proud to call him ours!
A and dad have started playing basketball.  Against all of Jason's better judgment
he is now "Coach Dad" and WAY out of his comfort zone, but the two of them are bonding and doing well together in the world of pre-teen boy athletics and I could not be prouder.
Next month will be our court date and A will officially become a Stolle. We are looking forward to the celebration with family and friends.  If you are interested in being a part of our special day please feel free to reach out to me for information!  Love you all and thank you for all your support during this time!

How we got here
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